Hello my darling friends.
Today has been a pretty telling day for me. One that is filled with thoughtful internal feelings. Thoughts about where our minds have been going. Thoughts about peer pressure and what it means to all of us.
So many kids now-a-days are feeling the need to listen to others before themselves. They are willing to mold themselves into what others want them to be. And honestly, this isn’t just “kids,” it is all of us. WE are becoming sheep friends. Sheep.
I know that many of you are staring at this page right now and saying, “What the hell does that mean?” So let me explain with this story that I saw today.
A girl was with a guy that she loved deeply. She adored him. But he would constantly bicker about her looks, about how she done her make-up, her hair, even her weight. He liked short hair, she cut hers off. He didn’t like her make-up, she changed it. He thought she was getting fat, so she stopped eating. She spent her entire life wrapped inside of this fear that she wasn’t good enough.
That hit me friends. That really hit me hard.
But it also got me thinking about the bigger picture. About how many of us are living this outer world where we have no control. We are following this ideal that what and who we REALLY are, isn’t good enough. Well friends, this is my reply to that.
I’m sorry for the language but in the end, that is exactly how I feel.
Even in a relationship, as another example, you are head over heels in love with someone, but then your friends start talking shit. “Why waste your time on that loser?” “That asshole is just going to hurt you.” “She is nothing but a whore.”
Too many times you have situations like that. People stepping in to run their pie holes when they have absolutely no, and I mean NO, say in your relationship.
These are all things we need to work on. ALL OF US.
Look, I am not going to sugar coat this shit. You can polish a turd all you want, but in the end it is still a turd. And this my friends is shit. Plain and simple.
When it comes to living life, that is YOUR opinion. Not anyone elses. No one else has the right to dictate your life and how you live it. **Note here: If you are an underage person, this does and doesn’t apply to you. Your parents set rules, give you guidelines, not because they are acting like assholes, but because they are wanting you safe and for you to learn right and wrong! THERE IS A DIFFERENCE! This is pertaining to those that are considered “friends” or “a significant other.” Got that? I will explain down below where they, meaning the ‘rents “do not” have a say alright?**
All of us have a right to be exactly who we are, without fear of being bullied. None of us deserve to be treated like shit because some asshole seems to think that we should be cut out of some imaginary mold that they have created with their pea-brains. It doesn’t work like that friends. It simply doesn’t.
Someone doesn’t like your make-up? They don’t have to look at ya.
Someone doesn’t like your size? They don’t have to look at ya.
Someone doesn’t like your hair? See above answer.
All that matters is that YOU like it. That is just the way it is. If it makes you happy, then by all means do it. Make YOURSELF happy. You need to understand that no one else can love you, can care about you, can make you happy better than YOU can. And yes, this falls into the parent thing. *focuses on the kidlings that might be reading.* Kids, look. You aren’t a cookie cutter honey. You are you. You are an individual. Be happy with who you are inside and start exploring the looks that make you happy. You want to dress in all pink? By all means do it. You want to dress in all black and explore the whole “goth” thing, by all means do it. But ease yourself into it, along with your parents. Make subtle changes so that it doens’t all just BAM! Right in the kisser your family. Sit down and talk to them, explain what you are feeling, how you want to explore different looks. Talk to them like an adult. And please, for the sake of all spaghetti, DO NOT WHINE AND ACT LIKE A BABY! Seriously. It won’t get you anywhere. It will make you look like an immature little brat, and if you are wanting to be an individual, YOU NEED TO ACT MATURE! You need to show them that you have a good head on your shoulders, not that you have mush between your ears.
You in a relationship, and people are trying to tell you bad things? Who cares!
You in a relationship, and people talking shit? Who cares!
They aren’t in your relationship. They aren’t a part of the big picture. The only thing that matters is that the person you are with treats you with respect, with love. That they cherish you. Who gives a damn what anyone else says? This ain’t no menage-a-trois people. This is YOUR relationship: NOT THEIRS.
Those bitches have no say in your love life. None what-so-ever. They don’t have a say about anything. If they keep on going, then perhaps you need to rethink your relationship with THEM. Because seriously y’all, it sounds like they are trying to rule you, and that shit don’t fly with the ol’ Lilly here.
Y’all, listen. Seriously. Be yourselves. Don’t worry about what other people think. It took me a long time to realize that I am my own person. I am my own unique being. I don’t want to live for what others think, what others want. I want to live for ME. I want to make me HAPPY.
We all deserve that.
Know that you can always message me, my email is on the side there if you want to talk. I don’t mind. But I will tell ya again. I won’t sugar coat anything. I will tell ya like it is. And by all means share your experiences in the comments. Share this with someone you know that is going through this very problem. And STAND BY YOUR (AND THEIR) decisions.
Always be you.
PS. About that girl I talked to at the beginning of this post. Her boyfriend left her for someone younger and “better looking.” She spent months blaming herself. But then she woke up and saw that it wasn’t her that was the problem. He wanted someone to mold, and she just didn’t. I am damn glad to have read that post today.
And to that girl.
I am so proud of you.
Hello my darling friends.