I hope that today is filled with good things for all of you!
Today, I thought we would just chat a bit about Listening. I know that all of you out there know what listening means. It is the act of taking sounds from your surroundings into your ear holes and paying attention to those sounds. Hearing, on the other hand, is a completely different creature. That is taking into your ear holes sounds, but not really soaking up what it is.
Lets take, as an example, outside noises. Every single day, you will “hear” the same sounds. Crickets playing their songs, birds chirping, frogs croaking. After your initial “listening” it all becomes noise. Just noise. You zone it out. Your ear holes accept it, but your brain just sends it into the nether regions of your brain as something “un”important. See what I mean?
It goes the same for conversations. You can hear a person all that you want, but are you actually LISTENING to the words that are coming out of their mouth? Are you taking their vocalizations into your ear cups, siphoning them down your ear holes, and allowing it to seep into the mushy parts of your brain?
Listening, TRULY listening, is a trait that many people do not carry. It is a shame that we have all trained ourselves to “HEAR” but not to LISTEN.
If you are talking to someone, pay attention to them. Accept their vocalizations into your noggin. Give them the RESPECT of true absorption of their ideas and thoughts, or LISTENING to what they say, even if you do not agree. Don’t interrupt, don’t make yourself out to be the asshole friends. Because that is what you are when you constantly interrupt. An Asshole. That persons respect for you will drop off, and it will get to the point that they just don’t want to talk to you anymore. I mean, who would if they can’t get a word in edgewise.
Allow that person to talk, allow their words and thoughts to flow. And when they are done, you give your input. Don’t just jump on the bandwagon of, “I know you are mid-sentence, but what you say is boring me so I am just going to pop in with my opinion. YOU DO NOT MATTER TO ME.”
We all deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. It is a give and take thing. As is talking and LISTENING.