Hi my darling loves. Todays post is stemming from an article that I saw and want to share with all of you. Especially you parents out there. You can find the article HERE.
The article talks about an 11 year old boy walking home from the school bus and being approached by a man in a van. The man asks for directions, but acted like he couldn’t hear. So the boy moved closer. When he did, the side door opened and another person tried to grab the boy. Thankfully the child got away by slipping out of his backpack and ran home.
I do want to say that there is a bit of controversy with this story because the boy was able to give a very good (and I mean VERY good) description of the person he spoke with, along with a detailed description of the van itself. They were detailed enough to be used by a sketch artist to draw a picture of the attempted kidnapper.
Now, I can understand the controversy. How could a child possibly remember so much? To answer this question, I went to my informant. She is trained in the art of Kid-Fu and is knowledgeable in the ways of the Force. She is…. *dramatic music inserted here* My 13 year old. Our conversation follows:
Me: “Oh great child o’mine. Lend me your wisdom in the ways of Kid-Fu.”
This of course garners the raised eyebrow and the eye-roll that is so prominant in this ancient art.
Her: “Really mom?”
She shakes her head and facepalms at this point. Her powers are indeed… um… Powerful.
Me: “Oh wise one, keeper of my heart, the bes…”
Her: “Mom, stop it.”
Me: “Fine then. Geez. Sit down, I need to ask you something.”
This receives another of the eye-rolls and she sits. I proceed to tell her about the article.
Me: “Due to the fact that you are only two years older than this kid, give me your opinion about this. If this happened to you, do you think you would be able to remember details like that?”
Her: “Since it is something like that, and scary, then yes, I would remember. Kids have the ability to see things clearer Mom. We aren’t stupid.”
Me: “I know you aren’t stupid pookie.”
This got the eyebrow raised again. Her skills are off the charts now.
Her: “Don’t call me pookie.”
Me: “But you are my pookie, you have always been my pookie.”
Another head shake.
Her: “But to get back to what I was saying. If it is something so,” she pauses at this. “Traumatic, we remember. I can still remember the Chucky Cheese incident and what the guy looked like and was wearing.”
*The chucky cheese thing: My daughter caught someone trying to kidnap a kid. They soon after brought in markers that they would mark the parents and kids with. This was 6 years ago y’all.*
So basically, the Wise-One of Kid-Fu said that they can remember details such as the one described in the article. And I am going to believe her on that.
Which brings me to what I wanted to talk to all of you about. This will be in BulletPoint mode okay?
- Always teach your children not to talk to strangers. If they are approached, they should run to you immediately. Then and only then should they talk to someone they don’t know.
- Always teach your child the “Scream.” I know that screaming is annoying as hell. But in the case of being Kidnapped or harmed, a scream can work wonders. Explain to them to make as much noise as possible. Scream as loud as they can. By drawing attention to themselves, and their attacker, the attacker can get caught much easier.
- Always teach your children the “Dead Weight.” Dead weight is so hard to explain. It is the action of relaxing all of the muscles in your body at once, causing you to become heavier and more unwieldy.
- Always help your children with memory. Explain to them that they need to remember as much detail as possible in the case of something happening. Make a game out of it. Have someone in the family stand in front of them and allow them to look at them for a set time limit (like 10 seconds) and the person leaves the room. The person then changes on thing about themselves (like removing a sock or putting their hair up if it was down,) and then they return to the room. For each one your child gets right, they get a point. At the end of the “game” they get a prize. By doing this, they can learn that details are important. They will be able to spend just a split second getting the full picture.
- Always watch your children. Yes, we should be able to let our children play outside and not have to worry about some sicko getting their grubby nasty hands on them. But unfortunately, that isn’t how the world works anymore. Get together with your neighbors and set up a “Watching Tree.” One family takes guard duty every day. And keep in touch with them.
Friends, do you have any ideas of more things we can do to protect our children? Anything that we could add to this list?
By all means, share in the comments below! And share this post with everyone. The more that see it, the more help we can provide to families everywhere. By all of us sharing our thoughts and ideas, we can save a child’s life.